Your impact…
is created by hundreds of tiny cues in how you speak and behave. You’re unaware of them – that’s just how you are, right? But while others don’t consciously notice most of these cues, their subconscious is continually picking up on what you say and do. So if someone asks “what’s she like?” or “what do you think of him?” they’ll probably describe you in terms of subjective personal qualities like credible or warm or serious or trustworthy or disorganised and so on. They won’t necessarily know where they got that impression but, for them, it’s who and what you are.
But this is about more than simply first impressions. The way others experience you on a day-to-day basis – whether they believe in you – will hugely affect your ability to influence them. Many of my clients want to shake up the way they are perceived at work. Sometimes it’s about stepping up to influence more senior people. Often it’s about gravitas.
So I start by asking how you want to come across. I then give specific, expert feedback on the impact you’re currently creating and how it’s being created. Then we work to merge the two by practising in a safe, supportive environment.
Many of my clients are women who routinely find themselves underestimated, particularly at senior levels.